Independent education for adults 18+
Prompts, not proof of consent
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Yes, no, maybe — and not sure yet
- Which ideas feel like a yes, a no, a maybe or something I do not yet understand?
- Does my answer depend on the person, setting, timing, intensity or privacy?
- Would I rather talk, research, imagine or leave this idea alone?
- What information or reassurance would help me make an unpressured choice?
- How will we check again in the moment, and how can either person stop without having to justify it?
This is a conversation starter, not a menu, promise or record of consent.
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Different interests and compatibility
- What does each person hope to feel, express or understand?
- Which parts are interests, firm limits, uncertainties or relationship needs?
- Are there alternatives that everyone genuinely wants—not merely tolerates?
- How can disappointment be expressed without repeated requests or punishment?
- Is this difference acceptable, negotiable or a genuine incompatibility we need to name honestly?
A workable compromise must be freely wanted by everyone; it is not a smaller version of an unwanted activity.
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Privacy choices
- Who may know about this, and who must not be drawn into it?
- Are names, faces, tattoos, rooms, accounts or purchases identifying?
- What may be photographed, recorded, stored, edited or shared—and by whom?
- What happens to files, messages or products if circumstances change?
- Which devices, backups, deliveries or shared accounts could expose information unexpectedly?
Consent to an activity is separate from consent to identify, record, store or share it.
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Relationship check-in
- What has felt good, difficult, surprising or unclear since our last conversation?
- Have any interests, limits, health factors or access needs changed?
- Did either person agree from pressure, fear, habit or concern about disappointing the other?
- Are our privacy, aftercare and follow-up expectations still realistic?
- What should remain the same, change, pause or end?
A check-in creates space to revise an agreement; it does not require either person to change an answer.
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Consent and boundaries conversation
- What are we considering, in concrete terms?
- What is wanted, unwanted or still uncertain?
- How can either person pause, stop or change their mind?
- Are there health, privacy, access or power factors to discuss?
- What should happen if communication becomes unclear?
A prompt is not a contract and never proves consent.
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Relationship-agreement review
- What does each label mean to each person?
- Which expectations are shared, individual or still unresolved?
- How will new information or changed needs be raised?
- Who is affected by the agreement but absent from this conversation?
- When will we review it again?
Agreements should be revisitable and must not replace current consent.
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Access and safety planning
- What is the intended experience, and is equipment needed?
- How will breathing, circulation, communication and exit remain effective?
- What disability, sensory, fatigue, pain or medication factors matter?
- Can every participant operate the release or stopping route?
- What would make us stop and seek help?
Higher-risk activities require specialist, current education.
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First meeting or event plan
- What independent information have I checked?
- How will I travel, leave and contact support?
- What are the venue’s privacy, photography and accessibility rules?
- What information will I share with a trusted person?
- What will I do if pressure or expectations change?
A safecall or venue rule cannot guarantee safety.
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Aftercare and follow-up preferences
- What helps each person transition out of the experience?
- Is touch, conversation, space, food or practical help wanted?
- When and how should we check in later?
- What privacy applies to messages or records?
- What signs would prompt medical or other support?
Aftercare can be mutual, self-directed, delayed or unnecessary.
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Kink negotiation checklist
- What specific idea are we discussing, and what does each person want from it?
- Which words, roles, actions, people, setting and time are in scope?
- What is a yes, a no, a maybe or still unknown for each person?
- How can anyone pause, stop or leave a role, including without speech?
- What response follows a missed signal or a change in responsiveness?
- What health, access, privacy, recording or bystander questions matter?
- What does each person want at the end and in a later check-in?
- Which questions need further research or qualified advice before deciding?
Print this page and write only what you choose to record. A completed sheet never replaces consent in the moment.
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Sexual-health conversation
- What prevention choices are relevant to the activities being considered?
- When were tests taken, and what did they cover?
- Do symptoms, medicines, allergies or vaccinations matter?
- How will barrier or cleaning decisions be communicated?
- Which questions need a clinician rather than a partner’s guess?
Use current professional guidance for testing, symptoms and treatment.
