How a person understands and names their own gender.
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Gender identity
A person's internal and self-described sense of gender, such as woman, man, non-binary, another gender or no gender. It may or may not correspond with sex registered or assigned at birth.
Identity & diversity
In brief
A self-described sense of gender, distinct from expression, anatomy and orientation.
Gender identity is stated by the person rather than inferred from appearance, anatomy, voice, name or documents. It is distinct from gender expression and sexual orientation. Some people have a stable identity, some experience fluidity, and some do not find gender personally significant.
The sex category recorded at birth, based on observed characteristics and administrative practice.
Outward presentation through clothing, voice, manner or other signals.
A pattern of sexual attraction or identity, separate from one's own gender.
Self-identification and language
Names, pronouns and identity terms are communicated by the person. Pronouns can provide useful information but do not always map one-to-one onto gender.
Language changes across cultures and time. Ask respectfully when relevant rather than testing or demanding a justification.
Cis, trans and diverse identities
Cisgender commonly means gender aligns with sex assigned at birth; transgender describes a difference, often as an umbrella. Non-binary includes identities not exclusively woman or man.
Not everyone adopts these umbrellas, and legal or clinical categories may use narrower definitions than everyday community language.
Healthcare relevance and privacy
Good care asks for the specific anatomy, medicines, reproductive history or screening information needed, rather than using identity as a proxy. A trans status should not dominate unrelated care.
Recording identity or pronouns can support respectful care but may reveal sensitive information. Explain purpose, access and confidentiality and allow people not to answer.
Distress is not identity
Gender incongruence describes a difference between experienced gender and registered sex; gender dysphoria refers to associated distress or discomfort and is not universal.
A person need not experience dysphoria, transition medically or obtain documents for their identity to deserve respect. Mental-health support should address distress without treating identity itself as a disorder.
Non-graphic examples
What the umbrella may include
- Stating a non-binary gender identity.
- Using pronouns that do not reveal anatomy.
- Being cisgender with gender-nonconforming expression.
- Providing anatomy-specific information privately for screening.
- Declining to record gender identity when it is irrelevant.
Reviewed 30 August 2026
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