Adult participants freely agree to the type, timing and boundaries of an exchange.
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Adult sexting
Consensual exchange of sexual or intimate words, images or recordings between adults, with separate decisions about content, recipients, storage and reuse.
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In brief
Consensual adult exchange is distinct from pressure, unsolicited content and non-consensual sharing.
Adult sexting can be a form of intimacy, flirting, fantasy or remote connection. Its consensual nature does not remove privacy, impersonation, coercion, account-security or image-based-abuse risks. The safest option for one person may differ from another, and nobody owes intimate content to prove interest or trust.
An unsolicited genital image, with a specific offence in England and Wales where statutory elements are met.
Threats involving intimate material used to demand money, more content, contact or another act.
Non-consensual creation, copying, sharing or threats involving intimate imagery.
Consent and boundaries
Ask before sending intimate content and agree what kinds are welcome. A dating match, prior exchange or relationship does not create continuing consent, and a recipient can stop at any time.
Never pressure someone to include their face, name, workplace, location or a more explicit act. Refusal is not evidence of mistrust or lack of attraction.
Privacy and security
Removing identifying details, checking backgrounds, limiting metadata and using protected accounts may reduce exposure but cannot eliminate it. Recipients, platforms, backups, malware and secondary cameras can defeat disappearing-message controls.
Use unique passwords and two-step verification, review linked devices and notifications, and consider what appears on shared screens or billing records.
Fraud, impersonation and coercion
A verified profile does not prove benevolent intent. Sudden pressure, secrecy, threats, requests for money or escalating demands can indicate sextortion or romance fraud.
Do not pay or send more content in the hope that threats will stop. Preserve safe message context, block where appropriate and seek platform, police or specialist support.
Adult-only and legal limits
This card concerns adults aged 18 or over. Creating, requesting, possessing or sharing indecent images of anyone under 18 can be criminal even when peers describe the exchange as consensual.
For adults, non-consensual sharing, threats, harassment, stalking or blackmail may engage different laws across the UK. Consent to receive is never consent to redistribute.
Non-graphic examples
What the umbrella may include
- Checking whether a suggestive message is welcome first.
- Keeping a face and identifying background out of an image.
- Declining a request without having to justify it.
- Stopping when a recipient changes their mind.
- Reporting a threat rather than sending money or further material.
Reviewed 30 August 2026
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