The UK Kink GuideEvidence-led glossaryThe use of force, threats, manipulation, control or serious pressure to obtain conduct that is not freely chosen.
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In brief
Coercion can be physical, emotional, economic, social or technology-assisted. It may be a single threat or part of an accumulating pattern that makes refusal feel unsafe or futile. Apparent agreement obtained through coercion is not the same as free consent.
Threats may concern violence, housing, money, employment, immigration status, disclosure, reputation, children or withdrawal of essential care. Surveillance, isolation and controlling access to resources can reinforce them.
Not every disagreement or request is coercion. Context, repetition, power, consequences and whether no remains safe and meaningful all matter.
Conduct that constrains another person's freedom through threats, force, control or serious pressure.
An attempt to influence that still leaves a safe and realistic option to decline; repetition or leverage can change its character.
A repeated or continuous pattern used to dominate, isolate or reduce another person's freedom.
Negotiated adult role authority that remains bounded, withdrawable and separate from real-world abuse.
A person may comply, appease, freeze or stop resisting to reduce danger. These behaviours do not show that coercive activity became wanted.
Silence, passivity, a relationship or an eventual yes cannot be read separately from the pressure surrounding them. Responsibility stays with the person applying coercion.
Sexual-offence and domestic-abuse laws differ across UK jurisdictions. In England and Wales, controlling or coercive behaviour in a personally connected relationship is a specific offence when statutory elements are met.
Other coercive conduct may fall under different offences or safeguarding rules. A glossary cannot determine criminal liability from a short example.
If coercion may be present, prioritise safety rather than confrontation that could escalate risk. Specialist domestic-abuse or sexual-violence services can help with confidential planning.
In immediate danger, contact emergency services. Preserve the affected person's control over support choices wherever safely possible.
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