A condition created and enforced by a particular organiser or venue.
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House rules
Venue- or organiser-specific requirements governing entry, conduct, privacy, equipment, activities, substances, consent, reporting and removal from an event or space.
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In brief
House rules set a local minimum—they do not replace consent, competent judgement or law.
House rules translate an organiser's risk decisions and values into local conditions. They can be stricter than a participant's private practice and may differ between events at the same venue. Acceptance permits attendance under those conditions; it does not waive bodily autonomy, transfer responsibility to staff or make unlawful conduct lawful.
An individual's limit or decision, which remains valid even when an activity is venue-permitted.
A commonly reported custom that may vary and has no automatic enforcement or legal status.
An external legal requirement that cannot be displaced by an organiser's policy.
Scope and communication
Rules may cover age and identification, dress, photography, touch, watching, equipment, prohibited activities, alcohol or drugs, safer sex, accessibility, exits and complaints. Publish them before purchase where practical and make changes visible.
Use plain, accessible language and define ambiguous terms. A slogan such as consent required is not a complete procedure for prevention, intervention and reporting.
Consent and enforcement
A venue may forbid an activity even when participants consent; it cannot authorise activity when a participant does not. Signing terms or entering a space is not consent to sexual or kink interaction.
Enforcement should be consistent, proportionate and free from status-based exceptions. Staff need defined authority, conflict procedures and routes to escalate immediate risk.
Privacy, evidence and accountability
Explain photography, device storage, incident records, confidentiality limits and who may access reports. A privacy rule reduces exposure but cannot guarantee anonymity in a shared space.
Record decisions factually and retain information only as justified. Reporting people should be told what the process can do and what options remain outside the organisation.
Limits and legal context
Rules are not proof that equipment, staff or activities have been independently certified. Participants still need to assess the actual situation and stop where release, hygiene or emergency arrangements are unsuitable.
Organisers should obtain current advice on licensing, fire safety, equality, data protection, safeguarding and criminal law as relevant. Internal rules must not obstruct emergency, healthcare or police access.
Non-graphic examples
What the umbrella may include
- A no-photography rule applying even with one subject's consent.
- A participant setting a stricter boundary than the venue.
- Publishing prohibited activities before ticket purchase.
- Removing a senior member for the same breach as a newcomer.
- Keeping an external reporting route available.
Reviewed 30 August 2026
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